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Not only is finding a loving, long-term relationship possible online, but more people meet their spouses on MateMakers.com than on any other dating site.MateMakers.com offers a fun, safe environment that gives YOU control over your dating experience and allows you to progress at your own pace in order to establish a healthy relationship—whether it’s just a casual friendship or a passionate, lasting romance.

We want your experience to enhance your life and bring you happiness, we also want you to exercise caution. Don’t be afraid to make connections. With a little caution and common sense you should be able to avoid that “one bad apple.”

The following tips can help to ensure your safety on and off the information super highway. We understand that you may not be a pro at online dating. Explore safely and utilize the Safety Tips below for your personal safety and well being and enjoy the benefits of MateMakers.com

      Purely Practical Tips (For Dating On and Off-line)

Whether you’re off on your first blind date set up by a friend or you’ve found your love interest on MateMakers.com, your personal safety should remain priority #1. We’ve compiled a list of guidelines to help you stay safe.

DO guard your identity
Even in person, you wouldn’t give your number out to just anyone. Don’t share your real name, personal phone numbers, place of work, home address or any other identifying information while chatting or emailing until you are comfortable doing so.

Tip: Never post personal contact information in your profile. Don’t risk having this information fall into the wrong hands.

DO remain anonymous until you feel safe and ready to explore other options.
MateMakers.com gives you control over your online dating experience, and allows you to protect your true identity until you choose to reveal it.

Example: Sometimes, instead of asking for information, a person simply provides his or her phone number early in the email exchange. That doesn’t obligate you to use it. You might say something like, “I’m more comfortable just exchanging email for the time being.”

DO use a third-party, anonymous email address.
MateMakers.com security throughout it’s site to make your experience a safe one. Even so, hackers can breach nearly any technology. As an added safety measure, set up a third-party email address expressly for dating purposes and forward your MateMakers.com emails there instead of to your personal email box. Make sure you turn off any signatures or identifying information in your e-mail.

Tip: Consider using a P.O. Box for snail mail.

DO be careful when using a sexy name.
Keep in mind that, while using sexual connotations in your email address or username might get you noticed, it probably won’t attract the type of person you’d like to share a relationship with–or even a conversation for that matter. The same precautions you would use in dating outside the Internet, should also be used on online.

Tip: Don’t include your real name or city of residence within your email address or in your username.

DO use a current picture and be truthful in your description of yourself in your MateMakers.com profile.
Misleading descriptions or photos can result in angry feelings and can end a relationship before it begins. In the long run, honesty is your best relationship tool. It will narrow down who is truly interested in you and not give false expectations thus a lasting match is more promising.

DO trust your gut.
Immediately quit corresponding when you feel unsure or threatened.

DO block abusers.
MateMakers.com STRONGLY encourages you to block any member who behaves in an abusive manner and to report the behavior to MateMakers.com.

Examples of abuse include:

Married people or minors using the service
Members sending harassing or offensive emails
Members behaving inappropriately after meeting in person
Criminals or other “shady” characters using the service
Fraudulent registration or profiles
Spam or solicitation of any origin
Copyright infringement
Members asking you for money or donations
Any other violation of MateMakers.com policies

*Solicitation is an offer to sell something to someone. Our Terms of Use strictly prohibit the use of the site service for the purposes of solicitation. Please notify MateMakers.com immediately if another member sends you links to pay-to-view porn sites or includes instructions on how to call a 1-900 telephone number. Additionally, report abuse in the form of invitations to join other singles’ sites, emails about modeling opportunities or attempts to sell merchandise or services .Invitations to view web cams for money is considered abuse.

Meeting Off-line – Think Safety First!

A first meeting with any new love interest can be exciting – and most first meetings are perfectly safe, but it’s always smart to take basic precautions. Trust your instincts. And be sure to keep the following guidelines in mind:

DO meet in public.
On first meetings, ALWAYS arrange to rendezvous in a populated, public place. Never meet in a private home (or in a hotel room) or in a remote location.

DO tell a friend.
Tell at least one friend or family member who you are meeting, where you are going and when you expect to return. Let your date know your meeting is not a secret.

Tip: Contact your friend before and after the date or ask your friend to contact you at a predetermined time.

DO stay sober.
Refrain from drinking excessively, as it could impair your ability to make good decisions and may put you at risk.

Tip: Stick to nonalcoholic drinks when meeting someone for the first time.

DON ’T leave home without your cell.
If you have a mobile phone, take it with you on dates. Most cell phones are can be used to call 911.

Tip: Make sure 911 services are available in your area. If not, know your emergency number.

DON ’T ask the other person to pick you up.
Get yourself to and from the date, even if you have to have a friend to drive you or take a taxi.

DON ’T leave personal belongings or drinks unattended.
Don’t risk having your personal information stolen. The same goes for your drink – don’t risk having it tampered with.

Tip: If you must leave your drink unattended to go to the restroom, order another drink when you return.

DON ’T succumb to the temptation to take first dates to your home (or go to his or her home).
Stay in a public place, even if you are pressured. If you feel pressured, end the meeting and leave at once.

Tip: If you are followed to where you parked your car, stop and hail a taxi or go into another public place to use the telephone to phone a friend. Come back later with your friend to get your car.

DO set up a next date, if you are ready and feel comfortable.
And DO remember to follow all of these tips on subsequent meetings, until you feel confident with your new friend. If the other person is sincerely interested in you, he or she will want you to feel safe.

Long Distance Meetings – 6 Sensible Safety Suggestions

We now understand that the love of our lives might not live next door we have learned to expand our searches to a larger radiuses thus introducing ‘long distance introductions’ . But, while they may be increasingly common occurrences, long-distance first meetings pose special concerns. Always keep safety at the forefront and bear in mind the following tips:

DO stay in a hotel.
If you can’t afford it, don’t go. NEVER stay at the other person’s home on your first visit.

DO use taxis to get to and from the airport.
If the other person wants to greet you at the airport – great! It shows interest and it’s polite. But DO NOT get into a personal vehicle with someone you are meeting for the first time.

Tip: Arrange a public rendezvous location and time, then take a taxi – alone – to your hotel.

DO keep your hotel location private.
Until you are completely certain of the a person’s intentions, don’t tell them exactly where you’re staying.

Tip: To keep from disclosing your location on caller ID, contact your date on your cell en route to your rendezvous.

DO keep valuables in the hotel or room safe.
Don’t take them or wear them on your date.

DON ’T forget to keep family and friends posted.
Always tell someone who you are meeting, where you are going and when you plan to return.

Tip: Let your date know that your whereabouts are not a secret to your friends and family.

DON ’T forget to use all our dating tips.
Read additional tips in each of our safety tips sections.

Red Flags – 5 Signs You Might Want to Steer Clear

“If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is.” Your mom was right on target with this bit of advice. Remember that, when it comes to your personal safety, it’s not only OK to snoop, it’s your duty. Here are a few additional guidelines:

DO listen to your gut.
If the other person can only meet or talk to you at odd hours, they may be keeping a secret. If that person cannot be honest with you from the start, you cannot count on them to be forthright in the future.

Example: If you talk on the phone and a person speaks in hushed tones or “has to go” all of a sudden, they may not be as single as they claim to be.

DO get as many details as possible about the other person BEFORE meeting off-line.
Don’t forget to share some of those details with a friend or family member.

DO a little digging
Because privacy is of the highest importance at MateMakers.com, we do not require our members to submit to background checks. We do, however, encourage members to do their own research on potential love matches including asking questions, utilizing Internet search engines (try www.ask.com) and most importantly, use common sense. You can also ask your date to submit to a background check, but be careful—a background check is only as good as the information that is provided to the background checker. So if you’re not POSITIVE your date has given you the correct information, you can’t rely on the background check results.

DO be wary of someone who is vague, talks in circles or answers questions with other questions.
Some people
ARE very private, but if you’re about to take your relationship to the next level, this isn’t the time for reservation. Communication is key. If they are not informative and vague, this could be a Red Flag!

DO proceed with caution if someone pledges undying love after a first meeting – or even after several conversations online.
Lust at first sight is alive and well, but love is, generally, an acquired feeling and comes in time.

DON ’T let love rob you blind.
Beware of someone who mentions how broke he or she is. Also be cautious if he claims he “just got laid off from work,” or that her financial adviser “scammed her out of all her money.” There are many forms of scams. You should research these, use common sense and use precaution at all times for you protection and well being.

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